Controlling Involuntary Movements
Controlling Involuntary Movements
…80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words.
– Deborah Bull
The key to instilling trust is matching body language to the words spoken. Movements will confirm or contradict what is said. Gestures will easily match what is said if the words reflect genuine feeling. Emotional awareness is necessary to communicate exactly what you mean. Unresolved emotions can affect body language.
Involuntary Movements
We do not control our involuntary movements. Emotions can affect our breathing, posture, gestures, and micro-expressions. People subconsciously pick up on involuntary movements, particularly when they contradict what is said. For example, increased respiration can indicate stress or anxiety. When practicing body language, be aware of involuntary movements. Reducing stress and finding healthy ways to express emotion will help limit involuntary movements.
Ways to reduce stress:
- Exercise
- Meditation
- Sufficient sleep
- Journaling
- Healthy diet
Say What You Mean
Deception is often part of polite communication. This will affect body language and movement. Communication is much more effective when you say what you mean. You should always practice being respectful and honest in your speech.
Honest Communication:
Be specific: Stick to the facts when communicating. Do not rely on your emotions.
Self-edit: Choose language that is not confrontational.
Have a goal: Know the point of your communication, and do not ramble.
Always Be Consistent
Dependable communication creates trust. The key is to be consistently honest and open when communicating with others. Here are a few tips that will improve your communication style and increase consistency.
Speak plainly: Avoid complex terms, and define any new terms used.
Listen: Invite feedback and clarify information when necessary.
Adapt: Pay attention to the body language and tone of others, and respond appropriately.
Be open: Be open and honest in what is said and in your body language.
Actions Will Trump Words
People pay more attention to actions than words. We typically make decisions about someone within four seconds of a meeting. This is largely based on body language and behavior. If your body language is hostile, it does not matter how kind your words or tone are. Be aware of what your actions and gestures are communicating to those around you. Practice your body language skills and decode the body language of others:
What People Decide?
- Intelligence
- Trustworthiness
- Likability
- Decision to buy
Practical Application
Steve had a busy schedule, and he was under a great deal of stress. Rather than helping his sales, the extra work was hindering them. His sales dropped five percent over three months. His body language was affected by the stress on his system. A colleague advised Steve to make stress reduction a priority.
Steve made a healthy lifestyle a priority. After eating well, exercising, and taking time to sleep, Steve’s confidence and body language improved. He was more influential with new clients, and his sales increased by 15 percent six months later.
